She's Lost Interest in Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my girlfriend been together for 3 years we have a 18 month old son. when he was 10 months old she got a chance to go back to school and take nursing. It happend fast and was hard she had to move with 5 days notice. she would not discuss nothing with me just said she was going.
so we got through that we are both here now but things are not good. she don't have anything to do with me she is very busy and i understand that but she won't make any time for us all she does is go to school come home and sleep. She says that she don't have time to spend with me and say all she cares about is school and the baby and doesn't have time to work on us and our relationship.
we are growing apart and i don't know what to do i try to do everthing at home to give her less stress but it don't work. we have made love maybe 4 times in the last year where she wanted to. most of the time all she does is complain about doing it for me and trys to hurry it and says things to take the mood away.
I don't want to just have sex i want to feel wanted and needed I do love her and my son but been trying to help our relationship for along time by myself and am geting tired. do you have any ideas that might help me.
It really sounds like there is a serious issue here. On one hand, it's great that she has her dream of going to be a nurse. On the other hand, you are being there to support her, her dream and her family. She needs to appreciate that. For her to treat you as a man-servant is completely wrong. Yes, she's stressed by her job. But again, this was her choice to take on her dream job and she did it without even talking to you. It would be *extremely* selfish of her to take on her dream and expect you just to be a pet puppy or something to serve her every need and desire while she did this. It would be equally wrong for her to say "Oh sorry I have a job now so you can just go get lost".
I would really go with her to a couples therapist or minister or *someone* third party. She's sounding too selfish to hear any complaints from you - but maybe if a third person pointed these things out to her, she might actually wake up and realize that she is being very unfair.
-- from Lisa
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Don't be clingy
Give her the door
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male