The Telephone Game says she doesn't LIKE me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i am a freshmen in high school and there is this girl that i have known for about 2 months now and in those 2 months she has been the best girl i have ever met now i am a person who never danced with a girl in my life and at our homecoming she became the first girl i have ever danced with that night i felt like i found someone who likes me for me regarudless of how i look i cant stop thinking about her i talk to her every chance i get and i make her laugh constantly we hug goodbye all the time and she never shows signs of being uncomfortable she always gets so excited when i come around and im always thrilled to see her she means so much to me after the experince she gave me that no other girl has given me before i was there for her to talk to when she was sick very bad(we talked on-line that is because we dont live in the same neighboorhood)and we talked for almost 5-6 hours
now the turning ponit to this story in which i am very afraid of is that i told a couple of my friends that i like her and they told her and she told them that she does not like me like that she has 3 other guys she says she likes but none of them spend time with her and r there where she can find them all the time like i am she went out with one of them and they lasted for about a week(take note she liked this one since 1st grade)the other ones she has not goin out with yet i want to develop our friendship so we can take it to the next level but i just dont know how to do it i need help and if u cant fourmulate what my question is(i cant really neither LOL)just give some advice on what u can comperhind i might have not put this in the best of words but if i figure out another way to do it ill send that in as well please respond asap this topic is just eating away at me and i need help
OK, first, one of the WORST says to try to find out if someone likes you is to play the "telephone game" and have other friends ask the person. Really, what if some strange girls came up to you and asked you if you liked someone? Would you reveal your real heart to some random people who wandered by? Probably not! This is a REALLY BAD way of finding out anything.
It sounds like you guys are GREAT friends. You're already hugging, which is great. You have the communication going, you have the comfort with touch. You have a special link between you two.
Don't worry at all about what your friends say she says. And if she has other friends, male OR female, that's fine too. It's normal. All you need to concentrate on is YOU and HER. You guys are good friends. Work on that. Be friendly, listen to her, talk with her, share your world, show a real interest in her world. It sounds like these other guys aren't doing any of that. So you already have the advantage.
When a new movie comes to town that you know she wants to see, offer to go along with her as a friend. The more you do things together, the more you'll be comfortable doing things together, the happier you'll be together, and before you know it, you will have crossed over from friends to dates. Just let it happen. If you press her on it, she'll balk because she wants to make the choice herself. So just keep being there for her, and the choice will soon be obvious to her!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com