She's Become Distant
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I can't figure out what to do with the relationship i'm in.I've come to the point where i don't know what to do anymore.I have an exgirlfriend that i've been seeing for about a year.Half the relationship we were together,the other half we were more than just friends.We've grown to love eachother alot,but lately it seems she's losing her love for me.
Throughout our relationship we've been on and off,tried to be just friends,but our feelings were too strong for eachother.i've had many times when i wondered where this relationship was headed and if it was worth staying in it,but every time we tried ending it,we end up getting back together within a week or 2.We've gone through this a couple times in our relationship.
We met while she was in a long term relationship with another man.We fell for eachother and started dating.She dated the both of us at the same time.I started to care for her and we fell in love and she broke up with the other man that she loved and was with for 3 years.
around 5 months ago,she told me that she didn't want a boyfriend and that she just wanted to be friends.That same day we became more than just friends again.We've spent alot of time together since.Almost everyday.
Recently,she's been very distant.She spends little time with me now.She tells me i'm becoming too involved in this relationship.That she still loves me but she dosen't want the strings of a real relationship.
I love her too,i don't want to wreck something special that we have.Is it worth staying in this relationship or should we end it before it gets worse?Should i just back off and be supportive in this time or am I just smothering her and it's too late to save this relationship now?
I would take a break here. You guys have been on and off again for quite a while here, and obviously it's never been so great that you stayed together. You went back more out of habit - that's very common. If you take a break for a while it'll give you both time to think about the relationship and what is good and bad about it - and hopefully some awareness of how to work on the bad parts.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com