We Broke Up - She Ignores Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My ex and I were friends since more than a year when we got together during the christmas holidays. During 1 month our relationship was great, until college started again.
She completely ignored me that first day, so I asked her what was wrong. She answered me that she was confused and didnt know why and what was going on, but that we should just remain friends, something she obviously didnt mean.
We were both hanging with the same friends for many months, so we constantly see each other. However since we broke up (about 1 month ago) shes doing incredible effrot to avoid eye contact. We barely say hi to each other, since I know she does not want to talk to me. I still love her and I know its not reciprocal, but I dont understand why she's acting that way.
My friends think she feels bad about what she did to me, but I dont really believe so... I dont really know what to do now.
After we broke up, I asked her why she was ignoring me so hard, but I didnt really get any answers. This is getting quite disturbing as we see each other everydays. I dont know what to do, and I can hardly forget her when I see her ignoring me so bad. As ive already tried to talk to her few weeks ago, I think it would be useless to try again.
She really does sound like she feels uncomfortable about the whole siutation and doesn't know how to handle it. Tons of exs are still friendly with each other, there's no great problem there. So the question is why she can't be friendly. Maybe she is uncomfortable that you still want her and she doesn't want to lead you on. That would seem to be the most likely thing. She doesn't even want to talk to you about why she's ignoring you.
I would keep being casual, low key and friendly. Show her that you're not a possessive stalker. Maybe after a while she will realize that you aren't going to grab her if she is friendly in return, and relax a bit.
-- from Lisa
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