I Don't Know how to Ask Her Out
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i am 16m and i live in india. here boy-girl relationships are not encouraged at all. I have had many crushes but sadly none worked, or rather let me say i didnt have the courage to ask the girl out. i have a lot of friends but no girlfriend..
let me get to the point here it all started in a few months ago when i met a girl in my same class but in another division during the meeting for organising Bball tournament. i started talkin to her and slowly i found out that i had a crush on her. But her attitude to me was not Like that so i kept talkin to her,and never mentioned about this . then i found out that even my friend liked her ,but he never admitted it to me. until a month ago when he finally asked her out and she said yes.
My friend who i am talkin about now is not better looking than me, but he knows how to keep a girl company. I dont know what girl needs from a guy?
Now again it is happening to me . i like a girl ,I got really close to her, I talk to her a lot. She knows everything about me and i know her also. she likes me, she is fond of me too. but i dont know how to ask her out (i am scared that after she hears this she may not even talk to me), I cant find ways to spend time with each other. I dont know what to say when i am with her these days. i am slowly drifting apart from her since 2 weeks.
my mind is going haywire, i dont know what to say or do please help!!!!
Well first off, looks have NOTHING to do with anything!! I know a ton of girls who would much rather be with a guy who treats them very nicely, vs a handsome guy that is a jerk. It's what a guy is like that matters, not what his parents' DNA made his face temporarily look like for a few years, until the wrinkles and grey hair start to show up.
If you like this girl, then just go to movies as friends. Don't make a big deal about asking her "out". See if she's free, as a friend, to do something. That way you can spend more time with her without risking her saying NO.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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