I'm Cheating and Afraid of Being Honest
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this guy last year and we started talking and hanging out strictly as friends. Just so happens ive been in a relationship for about three years. It was a pretty rough time. I would get hit and verbally abused..but i sometimes would hit him first. ive been in the hospital a few times and my boyfriend almost went to jail.
this new guy is so awesome hes everything i never thought i could have. but im scared to tell my live in boyfriend that i have feelings for someone else. they both dont know about each other..and the friend doesnt know im taken i never told him i feel really guilty. im afraid of letting go and having to end up in the same drama just different person.
The most important thing you can do right now is to GET OUT of the abusive relationship. Nothing else matters until that part is done. Get yourself a new safe apartment, get yourself friends and family and a support team. Work on that all.
Once you are on your own and safe and settled, then see what you think about this other guy. That will let you make sure you're not using him as a safety net.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com