I Want to Be Her Boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I know a girl, we both like each other alot, we even say we love each other very often. I'm very uncomfotable around my parents, and they are super protective about me (i'm 14/male).
I really want to ask her out, and she wants me too also. Her friends tell me.
Is there anyway i can "Ask her out" without going on a date? I just couldn't ask my parents, and i doubt they would let me without adult supervision (they have told me no movies without an adult before). I mean people mistake us for bf/gf alot, and I really want/need to be her bf before she gives up on me.
Now wait a minute, you guys say you LOVE each other and you are worried about asking her out? And you say you love each other, but you are hearing rumors about how she feels from her friends?
True love is about trusting each other completely, about being open and honest and sharing your feelings, hopes and fears. You shouldn't have to rely on friends to relay messages. You should be talking to each other.
Being in love has nothing to do with titles or terms. Why are you concerned with what others think about you and her? Why are you making guesses about what she wants? Many people dream about being in love. You guys are saying you're in love. Why do you "need" to be boyfriend/girlfriend on top of that? Most people become boyfriend and girlfriend so they can FIND love. Heck, if being boyfriend/girlfriend is important, then just say you are. It's not like you need some sort of magic potion or wand to call each other that. The only thing it requires is you two SAYING you are boyfriend/girlfriend.
It's not like being boyfriend/girlfriend requires anything else. Lots of people who date never go to moves. They never go out to the mall. They are just happy together. It's not like you have to go to the movies to "prove" you are boyfriend/girlfriend. All that matters is if you two say that you are. That's what a real commitment is all about.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com