He's a Lying Cheat
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been married with my hubby for six years, we have a lovely daughter and our marriage seems to be Ok since the day I have found out that he was exchanging "love" e-mail with a friend of ours.
Since that day, I am all devastated because TRUST has always been the most important base in our relationship. I was thinking about divorcing, but I am not sure that it will be a good decision for our daugter. But I am so unhappy now and I feel that things will never be the same again. I don't even know if I can still love him?
Do I have to spend the rest of my life with someone whom I don't trust or should I get a divorce. He's not making any efforts just to make me feel that he's gonna change, he's always talking late on the phone and he's still seing that woman.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? I am depressed...
I agree with you completely here - trust is THE most important thing in any relationship. Not only did he violate your trust, but he's not even apologizing now and he is keeping it up!
Remember, the most important thing for your daughter while she is growing up is to have HEALTHY role models. She can learn that to be a woman is to be strong and to find a love that can be trusted. Or she can learn that to be a woman is to involve pain, crying every night and sadness as the guy in your life treats you like a doormat. A child doesn't need both parents to be happy. A child needs a good role model even if that is just one mom, or a grandmother, or something else!
I would talk to a therapist, and then I would consider getting separated. You need a life in which you are respected and treated properly. This guy is NOT treating you well. If he wants to go screw around, he can do that on his own time, not in front of your daughter.
-- from Jenn
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