He's a Senior - He Doesn't Want a Serious Relationship
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
There's this guy I really like. He's a senior and I'm a sophomore, so there's a little bit of an age difference between us. I had seen him around school often and he goes to my church and i thought he was really cute, so i mentioned it to his sister, who's also in my grade.
She informed me that he had told her he thought i was attractive as well. She ended up telling him all about it and he suddenly started talking to me at school and on the internet. Then he asked me out to dinner after a basketball game. We had an awesome time and he asked me out again.
After our second date, he told me that he really likes hanging out with me, but that he's not looking for anything serious because he was recently involved in a relationship with another girl and had his heart broken and that it's his senior year and he doesn't want to be tied down to a relationship and just wants to have some fun. Of course I was upset, but just smiled and told him that it was fine. But we've still been going on dates and he comes over to my house all the time. He's always flirting and picking on me and he'll cuddle with me on the couch while we watch movies.
I really like him, but I don't know what to do. Does he like me at all, or is he just looking for the physical stuff? I would appreciate any advice you have to offer. Thank you.
He's about to head out to college - he's worried about falling in love with you and then having to deal with a long distance relationship. They can be REALLY tough to maintain and cause a serious heartbreak.
Don't pay so much attention to the words people use. Whether he calls you his girlfriend or not, that doesn't change the relationship you two have together. If you two are close, you are close. If you care about each other, you care about each other. If he feels that words might cause him harm, then stay away from those words. But you guys can still be close friends and even more than that if you want. He obviously likes you. Judge him by his behavior towards you, not by the words people choose to label you with.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com