I'm Jealous of Every Other Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and he is completely devoted to me.
We normally get on so well but recently we have started having arguments because i get so jealous.
He's 16 and at college. I'm 15 and still at school and I'm constantly worried he looks and fancies other girls. It's got so bad I even do pathetic things like hide my beauty magazines so he can't catch a glimpse of the pretty girl on the cover.
I'm attractive myself and my boyfriend doesn't seem to be the unfaithful type. I know deep down he doesn't look at other people but i can't stop feeling this. Also I haven't been jealous in other relationships.
What can I do to stop being so paranoid about other girls? I also can't stand him going out with his friends. I realise I can't stop him having a life but I hate him going out coz i think he`ll be unfaithful. When he does go out I can't cope coz i constantly worry and sometimes I worry so much I make myself physically ill. How can I cope with him going out?
I love him alot and I don't want to push him away but I know by being like this I am. Please help. How can I control my jealous emotions?
You are completely right that this will destroy your relationship completely! Not only are you harming him with this jealous obsession, but you are hurting yourself as well! This is going to drive him right out of your life if you don't take immediate action.
I have a lot of advice on jealousy here -
you must make this #1 priority in your life. Either you learn to trust him or it's not going to work. Trust is THE most important thing you can possibly have in a relationship. You have to trust him. Trust him completely. If you can't trust him, it is not going to work.
If you work on this for a few weeks and are not making progress, find an adult or minister or someone else in your area and work on it with them. You really have to learn to trust your partner, it's a critical life lesson.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com