We're Close but He Looks Elsewhere
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have liked this guy for 5 months now. We have become so close within the past five months. I have told him that Iím into him. He says he liked me a lot last year but just not enough this year. He said he would hook up with me, but doesnít want a relationship. I feel like I have to get over this guyóbut itís HIGH SCHOOLóso basically heís a real catch. We are really great together, we know what to talk about always, and we just connect. I canít get over him.
On AOL, he isnít talking to me as much as he used to. I heard another girl likes him now too, and I heard he might be into her as well. I just am sick of telling my friends this and asking them for advice. I will do whatever you tell meóI just donít know what to do. He never called me up before, and people told me itís because heís shy, but we always talk in school and online for hours!
I finally told him last night that I will take him not responding to what he thinks about all this as him not caringÖ and if he talks then he has a thought on all of this. He said Iím confusingóbut isnít he the really confusing one here? He always says- I donít know. Yet I still have a thing for him. Please help meóIíll give you more information about this if you have any questions.
It sounds like you are obsessing about this relationship a bit. You talk to him. He talks to you. Obviously it's not that he "doesn't care". If you keep pressing him for exact meanings for every thing he does, he's likely to give up on the relationship. Relationships happen. They don't follow scripts.
So talk to him. Spend time with him. Go to movies, as friends. It sounds like you're sitting around waiting for him to "do something". Why don't you "do something"? This isn't the 1400s :)
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com