logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her.



We Lept Into Things - Now What?



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I just started dating this man a week ago, & everything seems to be going so fast. It seems as if we been together for months & i am liking him so much, & he says the same & he also treats me as if he likes me alot. He introduced me to all his family & friends as his girl (his wifey) as he say. i hate the fact that when we not together i think about him like crazy.

Anyway the only problem is that he has 2 baby mothers, the 1st he has 3 kids by, & the 2nd he has 1 & a possibility on the way she is 8 mths. I have a baby girl from a previous relationship. Her father is deeply in her life, i'm not looking for anyone to replace her father. He seems to be so attached to her & that makes me like him more.

I did something i know i shouldn't of done which is have sex with him. Only thing is the condom broke & it let loose in me. so i told him i was going 2 take the morning after pill just in case & he got mad & told me i better not. I know he was mad bcause everytime he gets mad his eyes turns gray.

My problem is i'm scared that he might leave me & go back to his 1st baby mother - they were together 4 6 years off & on. Even though all the things he does makes me feel he wants to be with me. By me having sex with him so soon, how will i know the difference between him sticking around cause he wants to be with me turns into him just sticking around for the sex? Do you think i should see how long it will last and just work with it?, or just let it go?




RomanceClass.com Advice
It sounds like you guys are definitely deep in lust here. That whirlwind feeling of "everything is perfect!!" is very common at the beginning of a relationship while the hormones have taken control of your mind :) The signs of real love only emerge after several months together, when you know each other up and down and sideways and really accept their bad sides as well as their good sides.

This guy already has 5 kids to take care of - and when you had the possibility of getting pregnant he got ANGRY at you for worrying about the possibilities? When you'd only known him a week? That's a bit out of line. Just how much is he caring for the 5 he already has responsibility for? He's left the mothers apparently - is he providing support and visitations for his kids? If not, that doesn't say much for how well he will take care of any future children. He seems to love the chase and adventure of new love, and the ability to populate the world with his children. But he doesn't seem to have a desire for the long term maintenance required for a real relationship.

I would definitely take things slow here. If it was meant to be between you two, then going slowly will only make it stronger. But if he really is a love-them-and-leave-them sort of guy, you don't want to be yet another broken heart left behind.

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com





Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Jealousy Issues

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

Irish Wedding