I Lied on the Net - Now What do I Do?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I recently started to talk to this guy over the internet. As usual I went in knowing full well that people lie on the net and I am no exception. One week goes by and we talk to each other on the phone. I still do not like him until I realize that he has never lied. Now I like him and he likes me, but he doesn't know anything about me.
I lied on the internet. I wasn't suppose to feel anything now I do. I could tell him the truth but I don't to lose him. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just give up and say goodbye. I promised I wouldn't hurt him, and that was not a lie. What do I do?
I have a huge issue here. What do you mean, people lie on the internet all the time?? Maybe you lie on the net all the time, but most people do NOT. I have hundreds of people I know on the web and we all have great friends we have made in the web forums and chat rooms - that we can be true and honest with. We most definitely do not lie for fun.
Maybe if you lie all the time you end up with people who lie also. But now you have found someone who you COULD have had a good relationship with and you destroyed it with your own behavior.
Lying is never right - whether it's on the net or off. People are human beings and lying to them on the internet isn't a nice thing to do. Just because you can't see someone with your eyeballs, is it good to deceive them and play with their emotions? Is that like saying if you could stab someone on the street and get away with it that you should, because it's fun to hurt people? What kind of a way of life is that?
Maybe this has taught you an important lesson here. If you want to be treated nicely, it's time you start doing it yourself. Call him on the phone and tell him honestly what you have done. Maybe he'll forgive you. And if not, maybe now you'll realize just why honesty is the most important thing you can ever have in ANY relationship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com