I'm Obsessed with a Cheating Guy
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
There is a boy that I like, but he as a girlfriend. He asked me to go with him once before, but I said no because he had a crazy ex girlfriend.
Now, I don't care if he has a girlfriend or ex girlfriend. I just want to be with him. I think he wants to be with me too, but since he has a girlfriend he says we should keep it low key until he dumps her. I agreed to do this. I have not even told my best friend, and we are like sisters.
I don't care about anything other then being with him. I don't know if I'm taking this to far or if I am just in love. What ever it is I need help. Because I am just confused and I really want to be with this boy. I really need to know if I should keep us being together on the low, or should I just end it all now?
I know you really want to be with him, but listen to this. True love is about respect and trust. If this guy really loved you, he would have broken up with the other girl and took you OPENLY and HONESTLY by his side. It's not like this other girl has him locked up in chains and is forcing him to date her. Instead, he is KEEPING her around AND using you like a prostitute, using you but not telling anybody about you.
This is NOT a guy that deserves your love. He's not even a guy that deserves your time.
Somewhere out there is a guy who will gladly and proudly walk down the street with you at his side, and tell every single person he meets that he is proud to be your boyfriend. Any guy that claims that "I'll break up with my current girlfriend eventually" is a slime. Even if he does at some point, now how can YOU trust him at all? Every time he leaves your sight, he could be out fooling around with another girl. That's no life for you to live.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com