Disrespecting your Girlfriend Leads to Her Ditching You
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Well me and my girlfriend have been going out for 4 months, she's great and i love her but i made some comments about her being fat to a couple of my friends and they told her and now she's mad at me and wont talk to me and says i'm a jerk.
I told her i'm sorry but she says that sorry doesn't change it all. i love her very much and she's isn't fat she just has a little tummy. i want her back but she so mad at me i dont even think she loves me anymore.. what do i do?
A relationship is all about trust, about truly depending on the partner you're with to support you and your dreams and to be there by your side. If you start to believe your partner is actually out there tearing you down and destroying your reputation, it's hard to trust them at all. There are enough 'enemies' out there in the world actively working to harm you. You don't want your partner to be one of them!
Heck, just about every woman has a tummy and it only grows as you get older. Look at the fertility goddess statues, they always have HUGE bellies. That's how female bodies are meant to look. It's MTV that drives women to have flat bodies.
Yes, you wanted to bond with the guys. But putting down your girl is really a bad idea for many reasons.
That all being said, can your girlfriend REALLY and TRULY claim that she has never complained about you to her family and friends, never complained about your attitude, or your being late, or your habits or anything?? Those little 'conversations' with your friends is what part of life is about. I really doubt you were saying something like "she is a fat pig and I only use her for sex". I imagine you were just doing a little guy teasing. Just like girls do girl teasing about their guys.
So sit down and talk with her in person. Everybody speaks indiscreetly at times, and ask her if she REALLY has never said anything at ALL bad about you to anybody - or has heard any talk like that from her own friends. Those little comments do not have much to do with how a couple loves each other.
If she is insecure about her body - that is something for her to handle. But she should NOT let her insecurity destroy a perfectly good relationship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com