I Want to Make Her Love Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
i have loved this girl for a long time. she never told me that she has that kind of feelings for me but she never told me about her relations with another guy either. i had gone back to my country for a while and came to know about her relation. we chat and keep in contact. she just take me as a friend but i really want her.
i came back to the country where she is (my dads business is here). i didnt want to meet her intentionally but i bumped into her at a mall. i want her more than ever. my friends are telling me to get over her but i really cant. i think about her day and night.
i want to know how can i make her feel the same way as i feel for her. if not then how do i get over her? please help. i need advice as soon as possible.
I think you missed my FAQ that says you can never make someone love you :) You say she feels that you're a friend of hers. The MOST important thing you can possibly have with a person is that friendship. Everything else builds on that. If you didn't have that friendship, a stronger relationship would be nearly impossible to build.
So why are you discounting the friendship and treating it as if it wasn't important? And if you are a friend of hers, why are you talking about "making her" do anything? The most critical thing in every relationship is that each person is doing what they really want to do. That both people are fully honest and open and communicative with each other. It should never, ever have anything to do with one person making another person do ANYTHING.
So what you should be thinking about is building up your friendship so you grow closer together. You should work to become best friends, because that is what true romance is about - best friends who choose to spend their lives together. If you can only focus on "making her" bend to your will, it's not going to work.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com