He Used Me, Lied to Me, How do I Get Over Him?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I was with a guy for just under a year, we split up because he said that he didn't feel the same way as he used to and that the spark had gone. i always forgave him for everything that he done wrong like when he cheated and lied to me for nine months. I fell out with a bestmate because of him, i loved him that much i just didnt want to lose him.
He's moved on now and found himself a new girlfriend, but i cant bring myself to get into another relationship because none of them are him. The hardest thing about it is i see him day in day out.
Could you please tell me how to get over him or to even win his love back? thankyou
If you date someone for a full year, it is going to be hard to get over him even if he was really bad to you. And it sounds like this guy WAS really bad to you and that you should have stuck up for yourself and left him long ago!! Yes, it's nice to be in love. But love is ALWAYS about two people who respect each other, care for each other and support each other. He was NOT doing these things for you. So your feelings for him weren't as much a love as they were a needing of affection. You were willing to demean yourself and let yourself be abused in return for him being around. That's not love. That's being a doormat.
Thank goodness he is out of your life. Yes, it's going to take a while to get over him. But do not go back to him! I have a lot of advice here -
but spend time with your friends, spend time pampering yourself. Find new places to hang out that he's not around. It'll take a little while, but soon the pain will ease and you'll find that you really are much happier without him. And soon you'll find that you are much happier with someone else, who is much, much better for you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com