I Love a Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm in a situation that the girl I love, loves another boy but she feels very close with me and tells me issues that she never tells her close friends even. She says she even don't know how that boy feels about her and they didn't speak with each other about the feeling that they have and what they want to do.
At this day I understood that we have some differences in religion and she feels that some of the religious laws are not needed to be obeyed but in some of them I believe in them and I feel it's on benefit of us to obey them and I don't know if I could live with this kind of person or not.
Now what is better to do and how is better to behave with her and what is better to speak about or not to speak about? And at the end what I should do if I still love her.
It's good to have great friends, both boy and girl friends. But it is really important if you want to DATE someone that you both agree to fundamental religious ideas. If she does not believe in the same things that you do, and you think you can "change her", you will be in for a lifetime of unhappiness. People don't change. People believe the way they do for a reason. It's really best if you find a woman who believes the way you do about the important things right up front.
For example, let's say you really wanted to raise a family with 6 kids. And let's say she simply didn't want kids at all. If you decided to date her and assumed that you would "trick" her into taking care of 6 kids, or would pressure her until she gave in and raised 6 kids for you, it just wouldn't work. It is really important you agree about those basic desires without any pressure or change at all.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com