He Lied to Me - How Do I Get Over Him?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i was with my boyfriend for just under a year, we fell in love more or less at first sight, well at least i thought he had. everything was perfect for at least six months into the relationship. then we began to argue alot, over stupid things.
he then moved house with his parents. about a month after he had moved in he started to get friendly with his next door neighbor, she was stopping over at his but he never told me, i always got told by other people. so thats when the lies started to happen. i thought that i was the only person that he had slept with, but i found out that just before i slept with him he had slept with one of my best mates when i was with him.
i was hurt and angry, it felt like this whole relationship was just a big lie. me and my mate has fallen out over it, but i managed to forgive him for it. i think i felt sorry for him as he begged and cried for my forgivness. we split up a couple of months after, and there hasnt been a day where i havent thought about him or missed him.
he has found someone else now, and it hurts me to see them together, the hardest thing of all is that he goes to the same collage as me and i see him day in and day out. we talk now and again but its not the same as it used to.
how can i get over him? ive tried seeing other people but it just doesnt seem right because it is not him? please help its been nearly 5 months and i still cant get over him? thank you
It really sounds in general like it is a VERY good thing that you got away from him. This guy starts out by lying to you about something VERY important. What if this other girl had had a sexual disease, and he gave it to you without even warning you? Yes, you had six months of high emotions. That is normal for a relationship, that is the new-love rush of lust that often happens. But once that rush faded, you guys found you didn't have anything really to keep you together. And instead of actively working on building the friendship to keep the relationship going, he moved right along to someone new.
Yes, it can be hard to get over a guy even if he was a jerk like that. But it can EASILY take months to work through all those emotions. Don't try to rush yourself - you should never date while you're on the rebound. Give yourself time with your friends, find some new hobbies, get involved in a club or two. I have lots of tips here -
but you will get over him, once you have given yourself some time to heal.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com