I told him to go away - I want him back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My ex and I were going out for a year and a half. We've broken up almost two months ago. It started out that the breakup was completely mutual, but ended up on his side only.
We kept on seeing each other, but last week I told him I couldn't deal with it anymore. The reason why he broke up with me is because I would always give him a hard time, because he would do things. And even now he can't give me an answer to if or not we're going to get back together. He says he needs time to do his things alone without thinking about someone else.
It's really complicated, but I can't help thinking that it's not over. My question is: The fact that I told him I didn't want to talk to him or see him is the best thing I could've done to help me and him get back?
It sounds like you are trying to play games with this guy. You told him to go away so you could get him back?? Relationships are founded on honesty and trust. If you go telling a guy something, you should MEAN it. If you want to be with him, you should tell him that. If you want to work on the relationship, then you should work on it. If you drive him away because it's part of a game, don't be surprised when he does leave and not come back.
Relationships should never be about one person giving another person a hard time. It should be about two people who love and accept each other sharing their worlds. He is the way he is. You are the way you are. You guys aren't somehow going to miraculously change to match each others dreams. You are human beings. Either you accept him for what he is and be happy with that, or you find a guy you WILL be happy with. If you keep trying to hammer him to change his shape to fit your needs, you're not going to be happy. And neither is he.
-- from Jenn
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