My Ex is a Stalker
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago. He then later became a complete freak! He tries to stalk me, have his friends watch me and ask my friends my whereabouts. Hes threatened me also. He would message me on websites and on the phone on and off up to this day with one letter nice and another aggressive.
Please tell me what i can do and why he is acting this way. Is he trying to get back into my life or just wants my attention? i dont want my family worried for me and this obviously cant go on forever, Thank You very much for your time.
Stalking is about control. He wants to be able to have control over you, to guarantee that every day you are still forced to think about him. It's a very twisted attitude and can be very dangerous.
I know you don't want your family worried but you need to tell them what is going on. A family is there to protect each other and they deserve to know about this - because they are involved in it too. He could just as easily start harassing one of them to get at you too.
Your best bet is to shut down all contact with him. He is thriving on the thrill he gets knowing that you are forced to think about him. So block his calls, block his IMs. Tell your friends to just say "no comment" when he asks, and nothing else. He and his friends can watch you all they want to. But if they take any other action, have your parents call his parents. Either he learns how to behave or he is going to be shown why there are laws against stalking.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com