Strange Email Messages
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I am pretty upset about something and I am just wondering if i should be. I was talking to my friend and he asked me if i got this certain email from him. I said no, he said that he mailed to me and my girlfriend. So i went to check if it was in her inbox and it was. I also discovered this other email that had some pics of when she went camping. I just wanted to see the pics, and one of them read this:
"HAHAHAHAH i just read the e mail. Holly shit he loved you off. I had a feeling that he wanted to try somthin on you, its prolly a good thing that he didnt or else you would prolly have beat him up lol jokes, what do you think you would have dun if he tried n e thing on you, But then again that night you did lead him on. But n e ways can you print out this pic for me if you cant its all good dun worry."
should i be mad? Is my girlfriend leading guys on behind my back?
It does sound like she is seriously flirting at least with one guy, although to be fair the message does say she would have beat up the guy if he made a move on her. But still, she shouldn't be off flirting with other guys in situations you don't know about! It is quite fine for people to have male AND female friends, and to flirt with both. But relationships are always about sharing your life with each other. This should NOT be something you are surprised about in an email. It should be something she voluntarily SHARED with you because she enjoys sharing her life with you.
If she's hiding things from you, that's a really bad sign. It means she wants to keep her live private because she doesn't want to share it with you or trust you. I would confront her about it and if she starts to make excuses about why it's ok to lie and hide things, that's the time to call it quits. If she can lie about email messages, who knows what else she could lie about.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com