Is She Flirting or Is She Sincere?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am a college student and college bus picks and drops me daily. A few months ago a girl joined my college bus and just from first day her looks exchanged by mine but she does same with other guys too.
One day i proposed her for friendship and she accepted the proposal. I really liked her so one day I told her that I am in love with her. She gave me many reasons that she can't love me too because love can only happen with the person you marry. But one day she herself said that she loves me too and liked me from the day she joined the bus. She took my hand in her hands it was her wish. One chat she asked my wish too. I wished for a kiss and she accepted. From then we chat daily and I phoned her once for 3 Hours. I gave her a present and she presented me with a Teddy Bear too.
She usually asks me that whenever i feel bored with her i must tell her. I need a long life relation not a Flirt so i am very conscious about her and always wonder if she is sincere too, or just flirting?
Plz plz plz kindly solve my problem i am so sensitve that if she flirts maybe i cant bear it. Please tell me if is she sincere too?
You guys say you love each other and you wonder if she's just flirting? Most flirts don't go around saying they love people. Also, the way a normal relationship progresses IS from casual talking to flirting to more serious discussions. So if she IS flirting, that's a good sign that you two are really connecting and you're able to work on the deeper friendship.
Relationships don't just go POOF out of nothingness. They build slowly over time, founded on honesty and trust. So stop thinking of this as "either a flirt" "or the One and Only". The only way to GET to the One and Only is to build it up from the ground level. That is what you are doing. It is up to you whether you stop at the flirting stage or if you keep going to build that really solid relationship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com