I Pushed Him Away - Now I Want Him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
There is that guy that I got to know during the summer, and all his friends said that he likes me. But I was not ready for a relationship that time. When he was hinting that he wanted to ask me out I backed him off, because I was not ready for a relationship. I liked him though.
After 3 months I wanted to go out with him so I sent one of my friends to ask him if he still like me or not and he said "I used to like her but i'm not sure about my feelings for her now". And one day I asked him if he likes me and he said no.
Right now i'm really confused ,'cause I see him all the time coz we chill with the same people. He has all these girls flirting around him, and it really hurts.
I'm really confused right now and I don't know what to do. I really need your help ...
You are relying an AWFUL lot on what friends and strangers and rumors are saying. A relationship is about two people - you and him. It should involve you and him talking to each other! If you are actually thinking about going out with him, you have to be able to talk with him first! The whole point of going out with someone is that you guys are already good friends and enjoy being together and having fun and talking together, and you want to make it romantic. You two haven't even gotten the talking part down.
Build up that friendship. Flirt with him and talk with him. Stop relaying messages through friends! If you can't even talk, the rest won't work. You have to work on the friendship and talking if you want anything else to work.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com