He Won't Commit - I'm Too Jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I know this guy for almost four years. We were going out and he cheated on me. I forgave him and got back together with him. But the fact that he cheated on me before came back and made me a jealous girlfried. So I started to check his females friend's numbers and even broke his cellphone once. There he broke up with me and went back together.
Then one day, he came out of no where and broke up with me again saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I respected that but we ended up messing. Then he got a girl and they broke up and ended up messing with me again. He says that he doen't want a relationship, but that he still has feelings for me. I want him back but that's all he says. He says that I'm possesive but I'm not jealous anymore.
He goes out with his friends and leaves me in the house. And then again everytime I go out he asks me where I go. Sometimes he gets mad when another guy looks at me. And whe we have an argument over something all he says is "see that is why I don't want to be in any relationship." But he cares about me love to cuddle me and make me laugh. Honestly, what a girl supposed to do? Help me.
You act as if it's all his fault - but he keeps breaking up with you because of your jealous attitude. He doesn't want the grief and fighting. You need to show him visibly that being in a relationship can be about love and fun. A good relationship is one where two people are happy together - not where there is jealousy and fighting. Work on that for a few weeks straight, to show him what a good relationship is about. Then see if he's interested in continuing it further, once he sees how good it can be.
-- from Lisa
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