He's Pushing Me to do something I Don't Want
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for over four months now, and We have a really great relationship. We talk every night on the phone for over an hour and we have really great conversation it's never just fluff, were always talking about our relationship and what could make it better and what is already so great about it and things like that. It's just a really great relationship. Every time we are together or we are talking on the phone the time just flies by. When we spend time together we have a short of connection thats unexplainable. We can do anything or be anywhere together and still have an amazing time. We can just sit together and I can put my head on his shoulder and close my eyes and I get this strong feeling inside. But anywayz my question...
My boyfriend and I talk about the physical aspects of our relationship and so far I really like where its at I mean we kiss and stuff we use our hands to "explore" and it's great. I know he wants me to give him oral, but I always looked at that as kind of degrading for girls and guys to do. I would do anything to make him happy, and I mean I guess it really isn't a huge deal. He told me if I did it for him he would return the favor. Is there anything wrong about giving oral? is it degrading? I mean he is 18 and I am 16, we're both in highschool and we suppose to have fun...should this be something that I should consider doing for him?
thankx for your help.
You should never, ever do anything you feel uncomfortable with. We all have different comfort levels for acts. For any person who tells you "it's not a big deal" I am positive I could think up something that for them WOULD be a big deal - but that someone else in the world would say "that's not a big deal". Nobody can tell you what is appropriate or inappropriate. Only you can.
That all being said, you need to think seriously about something. How can any body part of a person you love be "degrading" to touch? You should accept and love all parts of a body.
Think of it this way. If you had a new baby child, you would clean every inch of it. You wouldn't think "Eewwww gross I have to touch its butt???" You would be thrilled to keep every inch of your darling baby clean, because the whole baby would be loved. You would keep all of the private parts clean, the insides of the ear, in between the toes, every spot.
Believe me, if I had a problem with a part of my body - any part of it - my boyfriend would look at it, clean it and take care of it for me. He'd never feel it was degrading or gross or anything else. He loves me, he loves every inch of me, and all parts of me are simply sections of the "whole me" that he loves.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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