I Want to be a Don Juan
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I am really interested in this girl. I have made it as far as to talk to her and laugh with her. I am 16 nearing 17. I am really not good with words, and really slow. I am not sure how to say words like gorgeous, love, good-looking and other related words around her.
By slow, I take extra time to think and I think she sort of finds that a turn-off, and I am not a smooth talker I sometimes don't make eye-contact, feel she, don't speak clear enough. I need to know how I can go about talking to her easily, giving her comments without these miniature heart-attacks I have. Over all I need help on how to smooth talk, flash that smile, give her comments, talk to her CLEARLY and CONFIDENTLY. I don't think I am confident enough. Also maybe even make a few touching gestures.
If you are reading this and can't see my problem because I am jumping around, this is the reason when it comes to the topic of love and this person I am interested in, I am just blanked out. I talk to her very dryly, I barely have any expression and find myself using alot of excess hand movements while talking to her. I want to be able to look straight into her eyes and just talk confidently, approach her and basically TALK. Start conversations, give her comments etc.
Please guys help me with this! Thanks in advance.
Why are you trying to change yourself from what you are normally to some sort of Hollywood Freak for this girl? She doesn't want some sort of plastic talking machine - she wants a BEST FRIEND. Just like all guys want, just like all girls want. We want real human beings to talk to, to be with, to feel honest with. How can you feel honest with someone whose entire life is an "act" with calculated punch lines??
If you want to talk more comfortably with HER stop treating her like an object of a quest that you are going to capture. Treat her like a FRIEND. TALK to her like a friend. Trust her. Reveal yourself to her. Show her that she can reveal herself to you.
The more you treat her like someone you have to fake out to impress, that you have to be a plastic person to talk to, the less she is going to WANT to talk to you. Try treating her like a good friend and being honest with her. That is a person she will want to talk to and be honest with in return.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com