I Loved Him, He Left, but he's Still Around
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i broke up with my a long term boyfriend of 2 years we were the best of friend before we went out but now we barely talk i think i still love him i hate to think of him with anyone eles he really hurt me what do you think i should we hang around with the same people so its kind of hard not to be around him sometimes.
This is really pretty common. Most people date friends, and since you hang out with the same people while you're dating, when you break up it can be very uncomfortable. You're definitely not alone - this happens to a TON of people.
The longer you've been together, the longer it takes to get over him. You will be jealous of anyone else he dates, because it means that that person might succeed where you failed. Give yourself time to heal. Don't jump into a new relationship, but keep yourself busy with things you really love to do. Think of all the things you learned because of this relationship, that you'll now be able to have an even better relationship going forward.
When you find that guy that IS perfect for you, you'll be ready for him, and your old relationship will fade into your memories as a time that was fun, taught you something, and prepared you for what you have with your real love.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com