I Want to Date a Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i used to like this girl at college 4 months ago, i didnt do anything about it at all because i am scared she might reject me over my skin colour being asian. As i said, i fancy white girls a lot, this is doing my head in so much,all my mates say my taste is bad, even my white friends say i should go for my own, i just cant help me feelings, i dont know if its feelings, i know i like them because they look really relly nice.
Well since i started in september again, i like another girl who i dont know, she is so pretty, and i am just messd up, i aint going to say no i am not childish, because i am, but i cant change m self, so many people have said i am childish and i am a PAKI and ugly and all that all my life, i dont have much confedience for a 17 year od, ive never been out with a girl, ive ben rejected before over my skin colour, it really heart me a lot, and i changed dramaticlly, over what i look like.
How would i know which girl is nice and which isnt? because over who they go for?
Just why are your friends saying to choose someone else? EVERYBODY has a certain body type they are drawn to. That could be white, black, chinese, hispanic, you name it. Your friends need to grow up a little. Black people date white people. Asians date jews. Germans date Italians. Do your friends live in the 18th century? All of us are HUMAN. We all date each other. Would they only date people of the exact same hair color and eye color? So why does skin color matter to them, or eye shape or nose shape?
You need to stop obsessing about that too. Most people couldn't care less about those sorts of things. They date who they like. So if you like someone, then get to know them. If someone actually says to you "I like you a lot as a person but I won't go on a date with you because your skin is a different color than mine" then that person has some very bizarre priorities in life. It is a treasure to find someone you really get along with. To then discard that treasure because of something like ethnic background would be a great shame.
Here are tips on flirting -
you need to just start practicing every day. Make it a part of your daily routine. The more you practice, the easier it'll get. And the more you flirt, the more you realize that people love people of ALL colors when they are friendly and fun.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com