I Suspect Her
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
we spend all the time in the world together, so she hasn't really got any time to slip away; the feeling is there though, that she has already or would at any time be ready to cheat on me. How can i tell?
You say she barely is out of your sight and you suspect her of cheating? That sounds quite unlikely. It sounds more likely that you are feeling insecure and not worthy of her and think therefore that "of course she would cheat, if she could be with someone better than me." Those sorts of jealous feelings destroy TONS of relationships that were perfectly fine. You can never prove she is not cheating. If you're going to obsess about her cheating, you are going to worry every single time she leaves your sight that maybe THIS time will be the time she cheats. It will destroy your relationship like water torture.
A relationship is about honesty and trust. It MUST have those things to survive. So tell her your worries. Admit your fears and then TRUST her. If she says she's honest, you have to believe her. Totally and fully. That is what makes a relationship last, when both people accept the risk and trust each other fully. If you constantly suspect her, the relationship will fail.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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