He Couldn't Handle the Long Distance
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I meet a guy when I went back home this summer, and we fell in love. I came back to where I live. We stayed together for 5 months then he said that he can't handle the distance and everything.
The problem is that I really love him, and all his friends are telling me that he cares for me alot. We broke up like 3 weeks ago, and we havn't talked since. And I can't get over him.
What should I do?
A long distance relationship is REALLY hard to maintain, and often times it fails. The things that make a relationship work - shared lives, shared intimacy, the constant give-and-take, are just missing in long distance. Yes, he cares for you, but he wants to have a real life relationship. He wishes it could be with you, but apparently it can't be.
If you were together for 5 months it's going to take more than a few hours to get over him! It can easily take weeks if not a month or two. Give yourself time to heal. I have advice here -
Of course if you want to consider moving to be near him as a solution, that's an option too! But you should think VERY seriously about the consequences of something that drastic. Moving to be with someone can work out wonderfully - or it can be incredibly stressful and fail miserably.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com