He Stopped Saying he Loves Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend has told me he loved me for quite along time now. Just out of the blue he would say it, and whenever we would get off the phone.
But then within this week he has stopped saying it. Or actually within two days... but it scares me.
What if he doesn't love me anymore? What should I do if anything? Please help!
The first stage of a relationship is courtship. You feel this rush of hormones and are overwhelmed with strong feelings, you feel like you constantly have to prove your love by buying things and saying things.
After that mellows out you realize you just ARE in love and don't have to go proving it every second for it to be true. Someone's love shouldn't have to be proven to you by constant gifts and songs. You should trust each other and trust in that emotion.
If you ENJOY him saying those words to you, and it's not just that you want constant reassurance because you're insecure, then say them to him first! Often that is responded to and if that's what you seek, that's an easy way to get it. You're not just sitting around waiting for HIM to say it first all the time, are you?
I have info on the stages of a relationship here -
but it is up to both of you to keep communicating and let each other know what makes you happy. If him saying those words is important to you, let him know that. And do your part in starting those exchanges too.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com