Three Different Guys
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have three guy friends who like me and I like all of them. I turned down guy #1 three times and hes not asking me out anymore because guy #2 is his close friend. #1 flirts with me no matter where we are or around anyone. They both tick each other off by trying to get my attention and then end up both trying to get closer to me. Guy #3 goes to school with with me and cant get his eyes off me especaily his hands.
They all go to different schools #1 and #2 live on the same block and #3 lives further away. I like all of them alot but Im more willing to give #2 and #3 a chance but what should I do?
#3 Likes me more cuz he thinks Im not a virgin and #1 and #2 dont realy care but they kind of want to do the deed. #3 like me alot either way. Also #2 is a great guy and they all are but hes with some one at the moment. He was going to ask me out but a message from his current girlfriend went wrong and he thought that I liked him a little bit instead of alot. He told me he doesn't care about her and then hugs, flirts eroticly with me. #1 knows about #3 and my feelings for him and knows my feelings for #2 but lacks the knowledge of my feelings for him.
I don't want to hurt them to bad but I got to do what I got to do!
It's a lot of fun to have different guys after you - but you have to remember these are real human beings here. Having your emotions toyed with is VERY painful and right now you are stringing all 3 of them along, manipulating them and in fact lying to at least some of them about your sexual background. That's the sort of girl that guys complain to each other about and disrespect in the end. You have to be VERY careful that you don't end up in that category - and the line between "fun flirt" and "B%tch that we hate" is very thin.
Life is about making choices. Playing with people like toys isn't a healthy choice to make. Sit down and think seriously about the 3 guys. Decide which one seems the best match for you - and you should NOT choose a guy that already has a girlfriend! Starting a relationship by destroying an existing one puts some seriously bad cracks in your foundation. When you have made your choice, follow through on it.
Yes, it's fun to flirt. But believe me, the rewards of having a guy that is by you 100%, and supports you fully, is far more fulfilling than having a guy that is randomly around sometimes.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com