Getting Over my Ex

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I recently broke up with a guy I had been going out with for a while. It was so sudden. I wasn't expecting it at all. Its as if one day he woke up and decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore.

I'm having trouble getting over him. It's fine when I'm with my friends. Or if I'm doing something I enjoy. It hurts the most when I'm alone. I think of him and the things we did together and all I feel like doing is crying.

I really want to get over him and get on with my life but I can't. Oh, and he still wants to be friends. How can I be friends with him when I love him? Help I want to forget him! Advice
It's always hard to break up - and it's especially hard when the person you were with doesn't handle it well. If he was unhappy he should have TOLD you so you guys could work on it. People don't just wake up and say "Aha! I don't want to date that person any more!" These feelings build over time and it's the responsibility of each partner to speak up when things feel wrong. He did not, and now you're suffering because of it.

It will take a while to heal, and it will hurt while you do. But be patient and take care of yourself and it WILL pass, and you'll find a guy much better for you. I have lots of tips on healing here -

Take it day by day and know that in a while, the pain *will* be gone.

-- from Jenn
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