Handling Lots of Rejection
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Im not the type of person that stays all sad after getting rejected but its happened to me 3 times this year. 2 didnt bother me that much. not as much as the first one tore my feelings in to pieces. she had been my bestfriends girl and as soon as they broke up i let her know i liked her and she didnt reject me at first and i asked her out and i didnt know my friend asked her out 'the same one that already went out with him' and he made her chose so she said no to both of us and 2 weeks later she went out with him and her friend said that the only reason she said yes to him was cuz he bugged aint that messed up ? please let me know what i should do.
Breaking up is very normal, especially if you're a teenager. Most teenagers change dates every few months as they grow and learn more about what they like out of a partner. So don't look at it as constant rejection. Look at it that you're trying out various girlfriends to see how they work and that of COURSE most of these aren't going to fit. These are just steps along the path to find the girl that IS great for you.
It really sounds like you went after your best friend's girlfriend before she was ANYWHERE near out of rebound. Rebound can easily take months before someone has their head on straight again. This sort of situation is what tends to result. The next time you hear someone is breaking up, don't go diving to scoop them up. Give them time to be really sure they know what they're doing. Believe me, if those two broke up the first time, they're probably going to break up again. They most likely didn't actually talk about what went wrong the first time to fix it, and therefore it'll just happen all over again. So this time be patient, be a friend and give her time to heal.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com