Dating a Co-Worker
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I really like a co-worker, but with my job I'm not allowed to talk to other employees,much less date one! I'm in a real dilema! The circle of employees I can converse with, think she feels the same way. I am dedicated to my job, but cannot get the possibiltiy of a true love out of my head. Hell, we rarely even see each other, but talk on the phone (at work) a lot. However, when we do see each other, it's a big smile and a brief straring match. On several occasions, she has asked me ( again, on the phone), why I don't say hi when walking by her work space? I want to, but I am dedicated to my job. What should I do?
I can't imagine a job where you are forbidden to talk to her! She's actively asking you to talk to her. Just saying hello and being friendly should never be forbidden! It's great that you guys are talking and being friendly, and talking in person is definitely the next step. I would talk to your manager about this rule, it can't help employee morale at all! And the next time you talk to her on the phone, mention that your boss for some reason doesn't want you stopping to chat to people, but that you'll give her a 'secret signal' that you are pleased to see her. Now you two can create your own secret code together, which will draw you together!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com