Patience is a Virtue - and Saves Many a Relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have a girlfriend for round 2.5 months, we loved each other and we are studing in a college. 2 weeks ago I asked her for help in one of the subjects and she didnt come. I got very angry cause I thought that she doesnt like to be my friend, therefore I ignored her for 2 days and told her that we`ll talk later. The day that I asked her for talk she refused me and I thought that everything is finished and I tore the sheets that she gave me in that subject before, cause I asked her the previous night for talk but she ignored me in public.
after a week I talked with her on chat and we solved our problem, but I dont know how can I rub off everything bad that happened in these two weeks and how can I make a much closer love with her.
You guys BOTH definitely need to work on your patience!! She didn't show up one night and you had a fit? You refused to talk to her for 2 days? She refused to talk to you to "get you back"? You guys aren't 3 year olds here, you are mature college students, and you're treating each other with HUGE disrespect. A relationship is about two best friends who care for each other and who pay attention to each other. You guys seem ready to bash each other at the slightest provacation.
You both need to make a HUGE effort here to treat each other better, or your relationship is going to self destruct. The issues you guys are facing right now are miniscule compared to what real life throws at you! If you can't even handle these small glitches without having fights, you are never going to survive the real ups and downs of life. These things you're running into are mere training grounds for real life, and so far you're batting 0%.
So make a full commitment to respect and patience. If she doesn't show up, TALK TO HER and explain that it was important to you! NEVER pout and stomp off. If YOU do not show up somewhere, explain why and apologize!
You are in full control of your relationship working or not working. You need to change your ways now, or you simply won't be in a relationship for much longer.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com