He Slept with Me, He's Ignoring Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I meet this guy and I really started to like him. Well we ended up sleeping together and after that everything kinda changed. We used to talk a lot and hang out now its barely. If I want to talk then i have to be the one to make contact. He never calls me unless i call first. I ask him if he likes me or what is goin on, he says he does and he really wants us to be friends, but what i don't understand is that lately if I ask if we can see each other he acts as if he is busy.
I don't know if i should believe him or just forget about him. i mean does he like me or not. If he doesn't why doesn't he just say so. Now he is mad at me because I told him I'm tired of him ignoring me. The problem is i can't just put him out my mind and move on. I keep thinkin about him. What do i do.
One of the reasons you don't normally start sleeping together right away is it CAN change the relationship seriously and if you haven't built up that base of friendship first, you don't have the ability to talk about what is going on and discuss things. Here you are TRYING to talk to him and he's refusing, because you were never friends first who were used to talking about issues.
If he is really ignoring you, and refuses to talk, then pretty much he's saying he doesn't want to have a relationship. Those things are what a relationship is all ABOUT. Yes, it's hard to break up especially when you're breaking up "by default". I have lots of advice on getting through it here -
just give it time and take care of yourself. You'll find someone new soon!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Notch him on your belt
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU