She's Acting Immaturely, What Do I Do?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have liked this chick for a long time and we finally went out on a few dates and she always seemed nervous when she was with me. I asked her about it and she just got mad at me. She said she wanted to be friends and I was like ok and I started looking for someone else to have a relationship with.
After a couple weeks she called me and said she wanted to do something and then didn't call back and wasn't home when I called.
Now her friend keeps telling me that she is seeing someone else and like are doing this and that. I'm sure they are lying and trying to make me jealous.
I've been getting messages from her online through a different account saying I should tell her how I feel about her. Me being stupid called and she never answered the phone.
I think this has gotten WAY out of hand and something needs to be done. I just need some help to do the right thing. I don't want her to do something crazy, cuz I do have some feelings for her. Oh, BTW there is way more to this story, but you probally dont want to read a chapter book. Any help you can give me would be great.
This girl sounds like she's really not mature enough to date yet! Most girls would be THRILLED if their boyfriend actually asked them how they felt and wanted to talk about things. Your girl got MAD??? What kind of a relationship is that, when you get mad at your partner for talking to you?
Then when you break up she starts acting very strangely, playing games with you. That whole pretending to be someone else on IM is just way out of control. If she wants to talk to you, she should talk to you. To start pretending to be someone else and playing mind games with you is NOT RIGHT. If she's capable of that, it's really not a good sign of what else she is capable of.
Yes, you like her. But she needs to do some growing up and believe me you can't MAKE someone grow up. So give her some time alone and go on with your life. Maybe in a few months (or years) she will be mature enough to date. But she just doesn't sound like she is right now.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com