A Guy who Keeps Leaving Girls
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was seeing this one guy about 5 months ago,now. I loved him alot and I believed that,he loved me, as well. We started seeing eachother in March of this year. He left him ex-girlfriend for me then, he left on Sunday and never came back. I haven't heard from him since,then. I miss him with all my heart. He told me that,he'd be back to pick me up that coming Friday but,he never came back. I found out from my father that,he's back with his ex-girlfriend,now. I wish that,he'd come back to me. I've been feeling,lately that,he's been trying to get ahold of me. I don't know what to do;wait for him to come back to me or move on with my life. I'm in love with him. I've tried to move on but,I can't. I was seeing this other guy after he left me but,it just don't seem right cause,I know that,I'm still in love with the other person. What should I do;wait for him or try getting over him? And,if I should try to get over him;how do I start cause,it's killing me not being with him. I love him with all my heart and it's really,really hard living without him being with me. I need advice,soon. Thanks,again. Bye.
Well first, he left another woman for you. He already has a history of not being faithful - of randomly deciding that he's tired of a relationship and will just hop over to another one. So that is ALWAYS a big danger sign. If he can do it to someone else for you, he can easily do it to you too.
If he left and never came back and never even bothered to talk to you about it, that's another indication that this is someone to move away from. Relationships are about communication. If you're going to leave someone, you owe it to them to at least say goodbye and talk to them about why. Relationships need closure when they end. For him to just take off and avoid that responsibility is very cruel of him.
Breakups are always, always hard. It is very painful for you right now. But this is NORMAL and it will GO AWAY. Everybody breaks up at least a few times in life! You're going through something we've all gone through. It's the healing process. Think of all the things you learned from this relationship that will really help you be a better person, and to find The Perfect guy who will really make you happy. He is out there for you, and he definitely wasn't this guy that left. So it is actually good for you that this happened, to show you what to avoid in life. And when that great guy comes along, now you'll know that he IS great and that he was meant for you.
I have lots of pages on breaking up - read through them, and know that while it hurts right now, in a few months you'll look back on this and be very happy it happened now and not after you'd been with him for years.
-- from Jenn
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