She Betrayed Me then Left Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi, Recently me and my girlfriend of 13 months broke up. She cheated on me before and I forgave her and we started over. Then recently she broke up with me and said the reason was because she wanted to be alone and didn't want to be in a serious relationship. So i accepted it, wasn't happy though, but what can you do. Then as the day went on, things didn't make sense on why she wanted to end things. Cause I know her behaviour.
Anyway, the next day I called her and found out that she has been seeing another guy. I was in shock cause I didn't think she had the heart to do that again and VERY angry. I was really in love with her. But our relationship wasn't always great, that's normal. We worked out problems and stuff.
I know she didn't treat me very well, was bossy, and was lying to me. But I can't get over her. I want to, but I can't. Im afraid I may never get over her. There's more to the story...but I'll cut it short. Need some advie please! TNX
Cheating and betrayal are VERY painful, because the basis of every relationship is trust. She violated your trust several times and lied to you up until the very end. It is VERY VERY good that you got clear of this woman before she could cause you even more harm.
Yes, it is ALWAYS hard to get through a breakup. That's why there are so many songs, stories and movies about the pain of breaking up!! Even when your partner was nasty and lying, it still hurts. It can take many months to get through it, especially if you were together for over a year.
So don't rush things. Don't think it will go POOF and you will be over it. It will take time. I have advice on it here -
After a few months things will seem MUCH better and you WILL get over her. Believe me, if husbands can get over a divorce after being with someone 10 or more years, you can get through a breakup after a year with her. You will find someone much better for you, and be VERY happy. Just give it some time.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com