Proving you Aren't Cheating

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend is my ex-girlfriends best friend and they got into a fight before we hooked up and now my girlfriend doesnt trust me and insists that im cheating on her with my ex how can I prove to her that this isnt true and I only love her? Advice
Well, the basic foundation of every single relationship is TRUST. So if she can't even trust you, she's going to have serious problems being your girlfriend. That's the *first* thing you start with before you have anything else.

So sit down with her. Tell her that you care for her, and that if this relationship is going to work, it has to start with TRUST. She has to choose to trust you, or choose not to work on the relationship. Those are really the only two choices. She has to look within herself, decide that she *can* trust you, and then DO it. If she's always trying to second guess you and wonder "is he lying this time?" it's going to destroy the relationship.

You can't "prove you're not cheating". And if she's jealous, and/or listening to lies, then SHE has to make that decision to trust you. You can't force her to trust you. But by continually disbelieving you, she's actively destroying your relationship. If she really wants your relationship to work, she needs to change that soon.

Good luck!

-- from Jenn
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