Returning His Stuff
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I broke up with my ex. And now i want to return his stuffs because when i saw them, i can't stop thinking of him. I still very love him but now he has a new gf and i guess they happy together now. My ex is very nice person and is my mistake cause us broke up.
To get back to him, he said no "turning back". I try to accept this and now step by step to forget him and our past. But i really want to meet him once to say sorry to him and return his stuffs. But he refuse to see me. I don't mind if he bring together his new gf. Is he hate me so much? And how is the good way to ask him to meet up?
I'm not sure exactly how you broke up, but EVERY breakup needs to have closure at the end - especially if you have stuff of his! You're not asking for a secret meeting with him, you're even saying his girlfriend can be there! Yes he might have strong feelings, but if he was mature enough to date you he needs to be mature enough to end the relationship rationally.
I would call him and say look, I have a box of your things. We need to handle this like adults, and you can choose WHERE this box goes back to you but the box NEEDS to go back to you. You can't just abandon stuff at my house and expect me to be the trash collector. You choose a time and place and let's handle this properly. Hopefully he will be mature about this and agree. You're only talking 15 minutes here and it is HIS STUFF that is involved!
If he really is childish and hangs up or something, I would donate his things to the salvation army. It is NOT your responsibility to be a storage facility for someone like that.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com