He's a Flirt
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I like this guy but he gives me mixed signals. The first time I met him, he showed me much interest and made me feel there's no girl like me, you know. He praised me and made me feel good. He also opened up a lot. He told me he was married before and his wife cheated on him and so he divorced her and has a child with her.
I was much quieter and didn't talk to him much. I didn't even answer some of his questions like why you are still not married or what are your hobbies. I was actually shy and was also not really interested in him. After sometimes I called him and I was this time friendly, so he asked me why I wasn't talking the last time we met and now on phone I am chatting. I jokingly told him he made me nervous and was scared of him.
Anyway, he told me I'll give you a call the next day , but didn't call me. I then called him as he also promised to take me to a museum . He didn't answer my call and sure he saw my telephone number on his mobile phone. He then gave his mobile to a lady and she answered me. What's this behaviour. He even didn't return my call and he surely has seen my number. He makes me really confused. Was it because I told him he scared me on the first meeting that he keeps away or does he want to show me that he has a girlfriend by letting a girl answers his mobile phone?. I really can't understand his behaviour. What should I do?
Flirtation is all about having fun talking with people, talking, chatting, and having fun. It's really not about serious commitments and long term situations being formed.
It sounds from the way he's acting that he loves to flirt but he's just not good at a real relationship. He had fun in the short term, but already has other people to spend his normal day to day life with.
I wouldn't pin my hopes on him. If he calls, it could be fun. But for your more long term plans, find someone who is ready for commitment and not just looking for fun.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com