He Left and Didn't Come Back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
After 5 years of friendship we decided to take it to the next level. We had sat down and discussed all aspects of the relationship including marriage. As we started to disagree he would talk of moving alone . At least twice he packed his things but didn't leave. There came a time he really did leave but wanted to come back within 48 hours.
All I wanted was for us to continue seeing each other but to live apart for awhile. He wouldn't call or come see me finally he called me and we agreed to get back together. I didn't hear from him or see him any more. Did I do something wrong ? What in the hell happened?
Being in a relationship is about trust and knowing you're both there for the long haul. For him to keep threaten to move out as his "solution", and then to finally do it meant that he wasn't committed to making things work. When things got tough (as they ALWAYS will in any relationship at times) his solution wasn't to work on it. His solution was to run away. And finally he did run away and didn't even want to tell you why or stay in contact.
I might try to find out if he is at least OK and not in a hospital somewhere - but other than that if this is his way of dealing with problems, it's probably best that you found this out now and not when you were married with 3 kids.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com