My Boyfriend is Missing

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been going out with this guy for a little over a month and I feel like im really falling in love with him and he tells me the same thing, whenever were around eachother I couldn't be happier. but every once and awhile we have the usual argument but it doesnt last longer then 10 minutes so everything as it seems is just great, but about four days ago I was talking to him on the phone and he was going to this club later that night with his guy friends like he does every friday night so as I was going to hang up with him I got this really bad feeling that something was going to happen whether it was to me or to him and i started crying out of nowhere he tried to console me and figure out what was wrong but I couldn't tell him because I honestly didn't know then I told him it was ok and just to go on and have a good night and be careful.

He told me he was going to call me later that night to check up with me and see if I was alright, he never did, which I let pass but started to get a little worried, i waited till the next night when he usually calls me, no phone call, i slept the whole night with the phone in my hand the next day i called his best friend A and he hadn't heard from him since the last time i talked to him so i called his other friends who he went to the club with and they too had not heard from him so i started getting really worried.

That night A text messages me on my phone and says he talked to my guy so i was asking him about it and he told me my guy told him not to tell anyone where he is and i asked him why my guy didn't just call me and he said it was because he was only allowed to make one phone call a day and whether that person picked up or not it counted as a phone call.

so i asked if he was in jail and since then A has just been mean to me and accusing me of complaining or something then i got a text message from A being real mad saying "let me tell you the truth about you and your guy and what he had no guts to tell you" and now i have these thoughts that my boyfriend wants to break up and i have all these terrible thoughts in my head and I called his house phone (wich is a bad thing because he isn't allowed to use the phone , he usually calls me on a pay phone) and i talked to his sister his family doesnt even know where he is so they called A and apparently my boyfriend even told A not to tell his family where he was.

I still have no idea where my boyfriend is, or whats happened to him and why A is the ONLY one who has talked to him or if A is just lieing to me and he really didn't talk to him but that would make me more worried cuz now no one has talked to him and I really dont know what to think or do or say I have just been a complete mess these past nights and I guess what im getting at is, I need advice, if anyone has anything that might help me please feel free to reply. Advice
This is simple. Call the police in your area and find out if any of them are holding your boyfriend. It would be public knowledge. Have your boyfriend's family file a missing person report. And if this "friend" of your boyfriend's continues to lie about where he is, the police can drag him in and get the truth out of him. You have no proof at all that this "friend" is actually giving you any true information about your boyfriend and he could be in trouble. Given how the friend is treating you, I wouldn't trust him at all. For him to lie to you AND to the family is downright wrong.

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