She called me her lover - does she like me?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i'm a freshmen in high school and there is this girl i really like and everyday i can't wait to see her at school we talk alot and hug every chance we get when ever i walk by her she always jumps up and down and gets excited one time i think it was last week i was hanging out with her and some friends and she put her arm around me and called me her lover now i really like this girl alot but i don't know if she likes me and i don't know how to tell her that i like her because i don't want her to be angry with me we've been close friends for quite a while now and i want to take it to the boyfriend/girlfriend level but i just don't know how to go about doing this?
LOL she is calling you her LOVER and you wonder if she likes you?? Do you think she hates you and just calls everybody her lover? :) Of course she likes you, you silly. Your question is if she likes you enough to become physical with you, to go from being a 'good friend' to a 'girl friend'.
Well, you're already moving on the right path. You have built up the close friendship which is KEY. Very nicely done. And you're also at the touching stage where you hug and such and it's "normal" which is also VERY good. So now, just slide it along another stage. Talk about movies that are coming up and ask her to go to one with you as a *friend*. That takes the stress off and makes it fun. Once she's used to having 'fun movie time' with you, and you hug goodbye, the next time you go to a movie, put your arm over the back of her chair. She'll either snuggle in or she won't, but you give her the opportunity. WHen you hug goodbye, give her a soft lip-press on the cheek when your head is there anyway. She'll be able to tell you if she feels uncomfortable at any of these steps, but they're small enough that none are "stressful" to your friendship if she is. You'll just say "ooops" and none of them are blatant enough that she'll think you're crossing the line. But if she DOES like them, she'll let you know and you can keep going :)
-- from Jenn
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