He Wants to Play Around
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Yesterday my boyfriend of 2 months broke up with me. In the past he told me he loved me and he wanted to spend every second of the day with me. His friends told me he was crazy about me and said I was the most amazing gurl he could ever ask for. When he broke up with me, he said it was because he just wanted to be single but he still had feelings for me.
During school he looked hurt and confused and ppl thought he was having second thoughts about what he did. Later on that night I was talking with him on the internet and he told me he completely lost interest in me. And even later on that night at a school dance, he kept looking at me and when I caught his eye, he would start dancing with this other girl. At the end of the dance he asked her out and they went out for 5 minutes. He ended up breaking up with her because he said he felt bad about doing that 2 me. But when he got home from the dance he was talking on the internet to my other friend and told her he really wanted to go out with her and asked if she would whenever she broke up with her boyfriend.
It sounds like he's really confused and can't make up his mind on what he wants to do. I was crazy about him and still am. I really want him back but I don't know what to do. His best guy friend told me he thinks he still "likes" me he just wants to be able to flirt and do whatever. My best friend thinks he's trying to make me jealous, evn tho he's the one that did the breaking up.
I haven't seen him since Friday so at school Monday I'll have to face him again. I know it'll be pretty hard for me. I know I sound way too attached but I really want him back and he may evn be regretting breaking it off. Any advice on what's going on in his mind?
It definitely sounds like he wants the freedom to just date whoever he wants and to flirt. This happens to a lot of people in high school - it's fun to date one person, but they want to try dating lots of different people to see what it's like. They don't want to get "stuck" with just one person. So it's not that you were wrong in any way. It's just that he wants to try a variety.
I would step back and let him have his fun. When he gets it out of his system, if you are really still free and interested, you will undoubtedly be able to get him back. But who knows, by then you may find someone you like a lot better, and be much happier.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com