I Miss my Ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and i have been together for two and a half years. About the first six months the relationship was amazing, we got along so well. I have always been very jelous and controlling. I've made her lose all of her friends, not talk to anyone, and had her write things down on a notebook that happened during school, while i was at home (2 years older).
I understand why she broke up with me, i know i have problems that i need to work on. All i want is for her to realize how much i am sorry and how much i want to be with her. She i believe is the love of my life. She wants me to start over and look for someone else but there is no way i am giving up, i've put way to much into the relationship and i know it could work.
She tells me its over, not to call her, or not to stop over. She says she'll never be with me again. I just can't believe it one day she was fine, the next day we were done. She says she doesn't want to be with anyone all she wants to do is be a teenager. I love her to death.
What do you suggest i do? I'm can't just give up, i love more than anything in this world.
If you love her, you need to support her in her decision and want her to be happy. Right now she wants to be alone and free and see how she does. That is something that EVERY human needs to do and, if you love her, you need to support her in that desire.
If things are really meant to work out between you two they will. But they will NOT work if you pressure her into things. You need to prove to her that you are her friend, first and foremost, and will be there when she needs you. So give her her time and space, let her be a teenager. You need patience. Stay her friend, let her know you're around. I think if you let her lead her own life and make her own choices, and stay a friend, that you will have a chance. But if you try to control her and pressure her, you will drive her away.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com