I Cheated, Now I Want him Back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i'm 17 yrs old. About 3 months ago i had a boyfriend for 6 months. In the 5th month of our relationship, i cheated on him. I fooled around with another guy. Well he found out and broke up with me.
I didn't realize how much i loved him till after we broke up. I still want him back bad..but i don't know how to go about it. He has lost all trust for me. How do i get him to trust me again?
You've pointed out the exact reason that cheating is such an incredible betrayal. Really he CAN never trust you again, because you've already proven that you are willing to put your own desires and pleasures over the commitment and responsibility you have in the relationship. If you were willing to do that once, why should he believe you won't do it again? Sure you feel sorry now, but in a few months if you start to feel "bored", you might take that same route again because you feel it's an OK thing to do.
It will take a LOT of time to prove to him that you really have learned from your mistake and realize now why cheating destroys relationships. I have advice on trying to heal here -
but it will take a serious effort on your part.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com